When Your Self Worth Feels Fleeting

Posted on Jul 20, 2015 | by Brenda Stanton

Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. ~Steve Jobs

The other day while googling around, I discovered an empowering and inspirational speech in the unlikeliest (or so I thought) of places and with the unlikeliest (again wrong again) of people – Amy Schumer.  

You most likely know about Amy – she’s comedy’s “it” girl right now.  She has a new movie out called Train Wreck and is seriously one of the funniest (and raunchiest) comedians I’ve ever seen.


Yet, as you’ll see in this speech that she gave at the Gloria Awards and Gala – which was hosted by the Ms. Foundation for Women – this woman has lots to say – and, in my opinion, is a true role model for Claiming Your Worth.  

Click Here to read a transcript of the speech. It’s long but so worth the read. Also, *WARNING* if you’re easily offended by some sexual content – and want to skip the back story, simply read my notes below – not as contextual but think you’ll still get lots out of it.  

CLICK HERE and Get Your Bonus Gift: There Must Be MORE To Life Than This

In the speech Amy explains settling for less than she deserved with some guy who was using her – and she was using him to try to feel better about herself.  Yet, her AHA moment came when she listened to her Truth (inner voice) who reminded her of how awesome, beautiful and smart she really is.  

The moment is paramount because she says:  “ I never heard from Matt again, but felt only grateful for being introduced to my new self, a girl who got her value from within her.

The best part of the speech to me is when Amy speaks about her confidence – even if her body isn’t perfect -it’s the body she’s in and she loves it.  

Yet, like all of us, her confidence still waivers when someone doesn’t see her for who she really is and makes a nasty comment or focuses solely on her looks vs. her true value and worth as a woman. As Amy puts it, when certain insults come, her self worth  “…is all gone, in an instant, it’s all stripped away…”.

She states  “All right! You got it. You figured me out. I’m not pretty. I’m not thin. I do not deserve to use my voice. I’ll start wearing a burqa and start waiting tables at a pancake house. All my self-worth is based on what you can see.” 

But then….

Amy summarizes:  “Fuck that. I am not laying in that freshman year bed anymore ever again. I am a woman with thoughts and questions and shit to say. I say if I’m beautiful. I say if I’m strong. You will not determine my story — I will. I will speak and share and fuck and love and I will never apologize to the frightened millions who resent that they never had it in them to do it. I stand here and I am amazing, for you. Not because of you. I am not who I sleep with. I am not my weight. I am not my mother. I am myself. And I am all of you, and I thank you.”  

Check-out the Worthy Work below for some final thoughts.  



Society teaches that our self-worth comes from the outside  — or other people’s view and opinion of us.  What we accomplish, have or do weighs heavily and can make your self-worth feel very fleeting.

Yet, as Amy so eloquently explained, your worth isn’t about what you look like or what other people think or say about you.  Your worth and value comes from the inside – who you really are and all that you have to offer.  And whoever doesn’t see this, or appreciate it, needs to go from your life.  

Also, I love that Amy states that she gets to write her own story – and state her opinion about herself vs. it being the other way around…“I say that I’m beautiful.  I say that I’m strong….”  

I believe that in order to be your True Self in this world and express yourself authentically, you need to not only be vulnerable as Amy displays each day, but confident in knowing where your worth comes from – within you and in your Divine connection with God. Once you have that connection, anything in the outer world can still feel like a dent, (or even a scar), but it will never penetrate deep enough to waiver your worth.  Not for a minute.  


Subscribe to My Blog:

Subscribe to my blog! Enter your email below to receive new articles by email!