Have you ever experienced a situation in life that is going “too good” – or “too peaceful” or “too successful” and a part of your brain keeps whispering: “There is no way this can last. When is the other shoe going to drop?”
Waiting for the other shoe to drop is an actual syndrome which has it’s root in FEAR. The fear of experiencing peace or goodness and then your mind trying to prepare you for the worst case scenario.
This is what fear does – it keeps you in a constant state of panic and high alert. You subconsciously stand guard for something bad happening – and worry that nothing good can ever last. This results in your body and mind humming at a rapid pace – like a car’s engine that is kept on too long – it’s idle and eventually begins to rev up. No wonder you may have a hard time being in the moment – the present moment feels frightening!
Being aware of having this fear of the other shoe dropping is the first step because you can now see that this is a survival mechanism that your brain created to help protect you. Yet, in Truth, this isn’t really protecting you – it’s keeping you in a state of panic, worry and anxiety. Feelings that may feel familiar to you – but feelings that also keep you stuck.
So, what is the true solution to overcoming waiting for the other shoe to drop?
Well, if you google this topic you can get some great suggestions on how-to try and overcome it – and find some good tips on keeping a gratitude journal, focusing on the good, etc. I agree on all these aspects – but, to me, they feel like band-aids vs. real solutions.
My take is – embrace it. Give it a big hug and then accept that the other shoe is going to eventually drop.
Change is inveitable.
As I mentioned in How Fear Rules Your Life, giving in and accepting that life will unfold no matter how much you try to control can give you a tremendous amount of peace.
Just like we can’t control what mother nature is going to do and decide each day – we need to realize that we are part of the evolution of life too.
And if you can accept, embrace it and allow it, you can be led to greater things while being in the flow.
Choosing to live in a more surrendered state is most definitely harder than contining to live in a controlled state. One gives you energy the other approach takes it away.
Which approach will you choose? As always, it’s your choice.
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