Trying To Please Everyone

Posted on Aug 9, 2011 | by Brenda Stanton

“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” ~ Bill Cosby

If there is one thing that I’ve seen hold more folks back from actively pursuing their mission/purpose in life, it’s trying to please everyone.

As you can see from Bill Cosby’s quote above, it’s very true, the key to failure is trying to make everyone else happy, while you stay stuck and unhappy.

Now, I get loads of flack from people who think that focusing on themselves means they are selfish, self-absorbed and don’t care about others. Yet, I believe we all know, at a very deep level how un-true that is.

The Truth is – the people who are the most caring and who have the most to give to humanity, (especially in these turbulent times where the most caring and compassionate are most needed) are truly the people who need the 101 lesson in owning your own life first, before trying to serve others authentically.

Now, I’m sure you can relate with being part of the guilt, obligation and *should* club – where you feel that others expect certain things from you and expect you to ‘act’ in a certain way.

Whether this is in your personal life with family and friends, or your professional life with colleagues, your boss, and/or clients – others have a certain expectation for who they believe that you are – or who they think you should be.

The challenge and struggle with trying to live your life based on other’s expectations of you – and trying to please them is: you lose-out and they gain. You feel angry, resentful and sad because deep-down you know that you’re living your life to please others – and you’re living by rules you were taught from others (a.k.a. society) which are very simple and extremely limiting: avoid punishment, seek reward.

Yuck.

When you hear the call in your heart that there “must be something more”, or “there is definitely more to me that is aching to be expressed” – this is an authentic call for you to align yourself with your own values, your own voice, and the YOU that you were designed to BE.

Oftentimes, most of us don’t realize that the reason we stay stuck in past patterns that keep you safe and comfortable, but miserable – is because you’re still playing a role from long ago – a role that definitely isn’t the Real You – but is most definitely a part of you who keeps you ‘safe’ from getting in trouble, or being called out for speaking-up – or keeps you with the ‘in-crowd’ and prevents you from losing friends or love because you have an opinion and a voice, etc.

The key thing to know here is: there is a strong need within YOU to be accepted, loved and approved of – and to please. However, the most important thing to know is: other people’s approval, permission and unconditional acceptance – isn’t what you’re truly seeking.

What you’re seeking is acceptance from your True Source – your Creator, the Divine. You’re craving this connection above all else.

And the inner call to do and BE more in this lifetime is the first indication of you needing to OWN your life and accept the gifts you’ve been given, and then, have the courage to express them and use your VOICE in this world!

You have a mission/purpose – a Divine Assignment if you will – that is meant to be fulfilled. And only you, the Real You, knows what that Divine Assignment is.

We are in a time of tremendous change. People are fearing the worst – loss of jobs, loss of income, etc. Now is the time for people to step-up and step-out to serve others in a powerful way – and to bring more authenticity and peace to the world.

Your intelligence, your drive, your ambition, your unique specialty and gifts are needed in this world- and they were given to you on-purpose!

This is WHY the voice within tells you ‘ there is MORE to life and – there is MORE to who you are’ – now you just need to make the decision to discover what that is so you can 1) live the life you were designed to live and 2) help others live the best lives they can too!

This is how positive fundamental change and shifts happen on our planet – by people like YOU deciding to own who you really are and gain confidence in that Truth – and then, allow yourself to have the courage to BE that person. The choice is YOURS.

Check-out the Worthy Work below where I share a video from Wayne Dyer on “How God Tells You It’s Time For a Change”. Hope you enjoy his explanation of how God works to conspire for US vs. believing God conspires against us!

 

WORTHY WORK

Here is a short-video from Wayne Dyer discussing ‘wake-up’ calls that feel like a crisis, but are actually calls to awakening…especially in the area of living your dreams.

A KEY take-away from the video is: the immediate result of your infinite patience is peace. You retreat in peace and you let the Universe handle the details – and after-all, that’s what it’s about – living your life in peace -and – allowing the Universe to handle the details.

Amen!

Give yourself permission to follow the ache and calling in your heart – and know that it isn’t ridiculous, it isn’t a pipe-dream, you aren’t being selfish or self-absorbed. You are simply following your inner guidance that is reminding you of your Divine Assignment.

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To Your Worth!
Brenda


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