Tap Into Your Real Motivations
Little by little one walks far” ~ Peruvian Proverb
Understanding what really motivates you is a process that happens in stages. And, part of that process is learning to distinguish between what it is that you want (aspire to) and what it is that you need (driven by).
I reference Unmet Needsunmet needs often as part of the Claim Your Worth!® process because understanding how needs drive you to take action (and not to take action) is fundamental to your own self-discovery and understanding of what makes you tick.
And the key factor in this is knowing when you want something to happen why it is that you want it.
Most of us don’t know why we want things – the main motivation is usually: I just want things to be different than how they are right now. If you really think about it, most of us were brought-up with the belief that we need to constantly be moving, changing, succeeding because time is running out and if we don’t keep going after the goal, then someone else will get there before you!
Can you relate?
Most people can relate with this after giving it some serious thought because the motivation is based on a rush and a pressure to succeed vs. a calm, relaxed state of restful alertness.
When you’re motivated by a pressure and rush to succeed you’ll know because you have a hard time relaxing and a hard time with simply Being. You struggle with constant feelings of uneasiness and a feeling like you always have to be doing, proving, and achieving.
Consider the following statements and see if they resonate with how you feel on a daily basis:
- I need to…
- I should be…
- I didn’t…
- I must…
- I want to…
If you’re someone who grew-up with a mentality that your worth comes from what you achieve and do vs. who you are and continuously become, then you most likely resonate with the above statements and inner dialogue that won’t let you simply BE.
Check-out the Worthy Work below to delve a bit deeper into tapping into what really motivates you and a better understanding of yourSELF.
WORTHY WORKThink back to the family of origin where you grew up. What was the ‘mood’ of the home? Was the environment light, free and relaxed where your needs were honored and you felt understood? Or, did you grow-up in an environment where you had to constantly be doing something in order to be noticed, acknowledged and seen – in order to receive praise or just earn your keep? This week, take some inventory as you consider the ‘type’ of household you grew-up in. If you were in a home where you couldn’t relax, there was constant chaos, and you felt anxious and fearful – consider what strong needs for basic survival may be continuing to motivate you and leave you feeling anxious and as if you always need to be working and feeling productive and busy. Then, consider what emotional needs didn’t get met that you may be trying to still get met outside of yourself today. For example, do you have a strong need to feel special, acknowledged, noticed and appreciated –and want other people to acknowledge how special you are – but it never seems to be enough? Stay tuned for next week’s content which will help you delve in even deeper to help you become more self-aware. Love, Brenda |
To Your Worth!
Brenda
Dec 12, 2011 at 8:08 pm
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