Posts Tagged ‘Self Honoring’

Dealing With Self Doubt

Posted on Oct 17, 2011 | by Brenda Stanton

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

In your life you’ve most likely doubted yourself, your abilities, and your overall
self-worth at some point, right?

Well, that’s actually a really good thing because if you didn’t feel self-doubt, or struggle with your overall worthiness, then you wouldn’t be living up to your full potential and experiencing the growth and evolution that your soul longs for.

See, the thing that I’ve found that has tremendous transformative effects on people is the Truth that – your dreams, desires, and adventures that you long to take, and things that you yearn to do, have absolutely nothing to do with your overall worthiness or feeling deserving, or ‘good enough’ – but in actuality, have everything to do with what your soul came to experience and needs to fully express in order to feel alive.

It really is that simple, yet not always so easy to embrace and then to take action.


How To Embrace Change

Posted on Sep 27, 2011 | by Brenda Stanton

Be bold. Be confident. Be alive. A gallery of possibilities awaits for you when you make change your friend.” ~Bob Bone

Many people beat themselves up internally because they have a desire for change, but for whatever reason, resist the change they desire.

This shows up in your life as you go to take action on something you want to do, but then stop yourself right when you are ready to make a change. Or, when you feel paralyzed and stuck. Or you do take action, but find yourself back to your “old ways” after a few days or weeks of instituting a new habit.

What gives? Why does this happen? Why is there the inevitable dance of going two steps forward and one-step back when you want to embrace change but find yourself resisting it?

Some may tell you that it’s your fault and you’re not motivated enough. They may preach that you don’t want it badly enough. You need be stronger. You need to have more self-control. You need to have more will-power! And the list goes on and on. This approach reinforces self-loathing and a feeling of helplessness – and experiencing more of the same.

But, what if that’s not true? What if it’s not your fault? What if the reason why you resist change vs. embracing it is because you’re simply not aware that something internal is driving your decisions to stay put, stay the same, and stay stuck right where you are?


What Resistance Looks Like

Posted on Sep 13, 2011 | by Brenda Stanton

Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore.Dream. Discover” ~Mark Twain

Several years ago – when I was in a major transition period of reinventing my life and my work, I was feeling a need for something, I just wasn’t sure what that something was.

A few months prior I had just finished up work with a coach who had helped along with my transition from corporate into owning my own full-time coaching practice. Now, I was at a stage where I knew I needed some support and some encouragement, but in a much deeper way.

One day while listening to a radio show, I heard a woman who was being interviewed about her personal history and background, and her coaching philosophy. I immediately felt a connection with this woman because it seemed she really understood what it looks like to resist change and how we all can self-sabotage to prevent growth.

I was extremely intrigued by this woman and wrote down her name and email address that was provided on the show.

Then, I forgot about it. Or so I thought.


Carving Out YOU Time

Posted on Aug 23, 2011 | by Brenda Stanton

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~Steve Jobs

Time is our greatest commodity. It’s a true gift to have more time for yourself, your life, and with your family, as well as having the time to continually pursue and succeed at your creative passions via your career.

Yet, what most don’t realize is – what you value in life is displayed by two main things. First, what you spend your money on. And second, how you spend your time.

Have you ever taken inventory of what you spent your money on in one month, maybe an entire year? If so, what did you discover? What about taking inventory of your time? Where you spend it? Who you spend it with? Doing what sorts of activities?

Now, the biggest question of all is to ask yourself: Is where I invest (a.k.a. spend) my money and where I invest (a.k.a. spend) my time, in-line with what I care most about in life? In other words, are my actions congruent with my heart?