Posts Tagged ‘Self Confidence’

You Have Authority

Posted on Aug 4, 2017 | by Brenda Stanton

When you go to different levels in your own growth and evolution, new challenges with “not enough” will inevitably emerge.

I heard someone say the other day “New Level, New Devil.” Very true!

Yet, our “not enoughness” at different levels need not be viewed as a “bad”, but just an opportunity to get closer to your untapped potential and your life’s calling/purpose.

And…like any worthwhile endeavor, you get to SEE and realize your blocks. Otherwise, they stay dormant within and hold you back. Always remember, if you can’t see it, you can’t transform it.

One of the biggest blocks I see with folks in their pursuit to do & BE more in their life, work and relationships, is: Believing they don’t have authority. Authority over your thoughts. Authority over your self-image.

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Fear of Being Seen

Posted on Nov 17, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when you are brave enough to explore the darkness will you discover the infinite power of our light.” ~Brené Brown

Amy Cuddy’s Ted Talk shows you how to literally take up space in the world.

I highly recommend practicing some of the postures (as she suggests in private) and accessing how you feel inside yourself.

Then, access how you’d feel outside in the world.

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Motivated By Your Inner Critic?

Posted on Mar 3, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“Success in any endeavor depends on the degree to which it is an expression of your true self.” ~Ralph Marston

We all have that voice within.

You know the one that crops-up when you’re attempting to make any type of positive change in your life. It either whispers, or speaks to you in a loud scream, something that sounds like: “Don’t Bother!”

If you allow the voice to continue to give you “advice” you’ll have convinced yourself in about 30-seconds of all the reasons why you shouldn’t make any type of change, or even attempt trying.

Not only does the voice do a great job of preventing you from trying to make any type of positive changes, but it also is phenomenal at beating you down, and making you feel really bad and small for things that you can’t seem to handle in your everyday life.

If you pay attention, you’ll notice your inner critic voice will point out everything you’re doing wrong in so many areas of your life.

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Rolling with Life’s Punches

Posted on Nov 14, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“When a poet digs himself into a hole, he doesn’t climb out. He digs deeper, enjoys the scenery, and comes out the other side enlightened.” ~Criss Jami

The above quote is very true.

If we could only look at life’s challenges this way – that eventually they contribute to our art (and heart) and that we all come out the other side of them stronger and more enlightened.

When life throws you punches, do you have this perspective?

It’s not easy to have this perspective at the time – especially when you’re in “the hole” as Criss describes in his quote.

So the question remains, what do you do when life throws you punches? Retract or get stronger?

I have a hunch that you make yourself stronger. That you discover what you’re made of. That you learn how truly resilient that you are. And….you realize that you truly do have a Higher Self that is guiding you – you just need to learn to lean on your Higher Self to get you through.

Leaning on anyone or anything is hard enough to do in general everyday life for us women (and men) who are used to being General Managers of the Universe ;) – but is especially hard when you’ve been thrown a big punch by life….

Lately I’ve been thrown a few unexpected punches and this year has proved to be a very challenging one.

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Wanting More For Your Life

Posted on Apr 15, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

A guilty conscience needs to confess. A work of art is a confession. ~Albert Camus

During a coaching call last week, a client asked a fundamental question that I think at one point or another we’ve all asked ourselves– consciously or unconsciously – Is it bad to want that?

Essentially what my client was asking is: Is it bad to want MORE? More joy, more beauty, more meaning, more experiences? More expansion?

What’s perplexing is– there are some folks who feel guilty and wrong for wanting and craving more and then others who don’t feel guilty about wanting or craving more.

The question remains – why do some have no issue with not only wanting, but having more, and others who feel bad, guilty or unable to manifest MORE?

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Have More Confidence

Posted on Dec 3, 2012 | by Brenda Stanton

“We give our power away when we become concerned with other people’s opinions. To recapture this power, remember that this is your life. Take back your power.” ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

The above quote speaks to a term that I’m sure you’ve heard in your own travels about giving your power away. I’ve had clients ask me: what does that truly mean to give your power away? What is your power anyway?

Great question!

Your power is your sense of self. It’s your definition of who you think you are – who you know yourself to be. What you believe you’re capable of and what you believe you’re worthy of. Your power is your self-worth.

We’ve been taught to hand our sense of self over to the outside world. To believe that others opinions define us. Or, that material possessions or worldly success can give a sense of self – some validation that we’ve made it, that we’re whole, and that somehow, the outer world can fulfill us.

Relying on the outside world for any sense of self-worth is not only fleeting and totally temporary, but it’s also extremely risky and absolutely draining.

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Change vs. Transformation

Posted on Feb 4, 2012 | by Brenda Stanton

“Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more.” ~Tony Robbins

The biggest misconception that I see with us humans is: believing we need to change who we are in order to experience what we deeply desire.

That when it comes to our own self-worth, that something must be fixed before we can feel worthy.

But what if nothing needs to be fixed before you feel worthy? What if everything that has happened up until this point is perfect and is in complete alignment with your Divine Plan?

You may be feeling major resistance at this point to even consider this – as you think back over “mistakes” you’ve made, flaws you believe you have, or failures that you’ve endured.

But stick with me in just contemplating and considering this question: What if you’re playing your role perfectly and reading the script you’ve been given to a tee?

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