Posts Tagged ‘Outcast’

Beauty of Black Sheep

Posted on Mar 13, 2012 | by Brenda Stanton

Last Wednesday morning, I hit the highway to drop off my laptop to get some repairs.  As I sat in the early morning traffic, my mind was flooded with memories from my former corporate days.

As I looked ahead of me at all the traffic, I remembered all the mornings, and evenings, I’d spent in sitting in my car- feeling like I wasting my life away.

I always remember looking around – trying to catch the eye of other people in their cars – wondering if they were thinking what I was:  “What are we all following each other to?  What are we chasing?”

When I was in corporate I always felt like an outcast. Come to think of it, my whole life I felt like an outcast – a black sheep – someone who always got into trouble for drawing outside the lines, not fitting into a mold, or box, wanting things to be different, and searching for an escape hatch – a place where I could find a blank canvas to draw-out that vision.


Mean Girls In Business (and Life)

Posted on Oct 11, 2011 | by Brenda Stanton

“How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!”~Maya Angelou

Each week (or month) there is normally a theme that crops up in my practice – where I witness clients facing similar patterns that show-up in a variety of ways. It’s also no coincidence that I will often see the same patterns show up in friends’ lives – and quite often even my own.

And this month in particular I’ve seen a pattern of strong, powerful, caring, committed women having to cope with what I see as – mean girls in business.

It’s sometimes hard for me to grasp this archaic concept because for the last several years in the entrepreneurial realm, I’ve been witness to incredible women supporting incredible women in both life and business.

So when I hear about, or witness, another woman being down-right un-supportive, mean, and nasty to another – it hits hard -in the heart.

And this behavior isn’t always easy to spot because sometimes, the woman who is doing the berating comes off as being sweet, nice, and ‘supportive’ with her words, but her actions tell a different story.