Posts Tagged ‘Meaning and Purpose’

Fear of Time Running Out

Posted on Feb 19, 2017 | by Brenda Stanton

“Man alone measures time. Man alone chimes the hour. And because of this, man alone suffers a paralyzing fear that no other creature endures: A fear of time running out.” ~Mitch Albom

Being a creative soul means that you’re more impatient than most.

You most likely walk around on a daily basis feeling an unrelenting feeling of anxiousness – a feeling that, no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to put your finger on what is causing it.

You feel impatient, but why? Why do you
feel as if time keeps passing by and you aren’t comfortable with it?

If you go deeper into the impatience and anxiousness, you’ll most likely find a fear – the fear of time running out before you realize your full potential.

The fear of time running out is a common one – and especially if you’re someone who knows you have a ton of creative potential to realize and express in this lifetime.

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Setting Worthy Goals

Posted on Jan 1, 2017 | by Brenda Stanton

Don’t aim at success – the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue… as the unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.” ~Victor Frankl

This quote above is very profound and one I suggest you may want to print-out and contemplate.

And what a perfect time to contemplate what success really means to you – as we are embarking on another new year – a year full of hope, anticipation, and excitement – and another year
and chance to ‘get it right’
.

Yet, trying to be successful, or trying to ‘get it right’, can not only cause loads of pressure, tension and stress – it can also feel really unfulfilling.

Think about it – how many times have you ‘gotten the goal’, achieved something that was important to you, and celebrated it – and then felt a deep pressure and a looming anxiety to figure-out what’s next and how you’ll top what you just did?

The habit of constant ‘bar-raising’ never feels fully fulfilling because it’s about achieving goals on the outside and constantly trying to get vs. learning how to give to life so you
can feel worthy of receiving.

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Do you ever feel this way about your self worth?

Posted on Jul 17, 2016 | by Brenda Stanton

carefreewomanThis past weekend I was having a conversation with a close friend of mine. And, true to form, she and I were getting deep into conversation about life, love and everyday worthiness.

I remember at some point in our conversation I had said to her – there is a big misconception in our society that the more you DO the more you’re worth.

Have you ever stopped to think about this?

Now that you have, do you have a belief system that aligns with this?

Believing that the more you do, achieve and show what you can do to the world, the more you earn your worth and finally can receive what you want.

This earning of worth is a feeling as if you huff and puff and try harder and harder and finally, after you’ve exerted yourself, then you can feel accomplished and worthy.

Can you relate?

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Power of A Vision

Posted on Apr 28, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“Having a vision for your life allows you to live out of hope, rather than out of your fears.” ~ Stedman Graham

Lately I’ve been finding myself talking more and more about the fact that having clarity on what it is that you really, really want, is extremely underrated.

It’s interesting to see the resistance that crops up when I encourage clients to start with the end in mind – to step back, take some time out, and get clear on what it is that they would really like to see happen – BEFORE we begin to put the action pieces in place.

At first glance, I used to think that the resistance that folks have to the visioning process had to do with them just wanting to get started with the action pieces because they value feeling productive above anything else.

And even though the need to feel productive still tends to trump the creative process of visioning, I’ve found another reason folks resist the visioning process – and this reason boils down to plain ol’ FEAR & Self-Doubt

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Preparing for What’s Next

Posted on Apr 14, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” ~ Seneca

Let’s imagine for a moment you have something in your life, your work/business, or on the relationship-side of things that you’d like to manifest, see happen, or transform/change.

Take a specific scenario of something that you’re desiring to happen – and bring what it is that you desire into your mind and heart.

Got a clear vision of what that is?

Great. Now, think about what it will feel like once this experience, event, result, etc. comes into fruition?

Got it?

Okay, now, when you think about making that happen – bringing ‘that’ into your life, work/business, or in your relationships, what is the first thought that pops into your head?

Write that down.

Now, is that thought you instinctively thought have anything to do with adding one more thing onto an already over-flowing plate of priorities? Or have anything to do with you going ‘out there’ to make it happen?

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Rolling with Life’s Punches

Posted on Nov 14, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“When a poet digs himself into a hole, he doesn’t climb out. He digs deeper, enjoys the scenery, and comes out the other side enlightened.” ~Criss Jami

The above quote is very true.

If we could only look at life’s challenges this way – that eventually they contribute to our art (and heart) and that we all come out the other side of them stronger and more enlightened.

When life throws you punches, do you have this perspective?

It’s not easy to have this perspective at the time – especially when you’re in “the hole” as Criss describes in his quote.

So the question remains, what do you do when life throws you punches? Retract or get stronger?

I have a hunch that you make yourself stronger. That you discover what you’re made of. That you learn how truly resilient that you are. And….you realize that you truly do have a Higher Self that is guiding you – you just need to learn to lean on your Higher Self to get you through.

Leaning on anyone or anything is hard enough to do in general everyday life for us women (and men) who are used to being General Managers of the Universe ;) – but is especially hard when you’ve been thrown a big punch by life….

Lately I’ve been thrown a few unexpected punches and this year has proved to be a very challenging one.

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Creating A Fresh Start

Posted on Jul 22, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“Your soul holds the pen for how you deeply yearn for your life to look and how you want your time to feel.”

It’s true. Your soul hold the pen for not only what you yearn to *have* in your life, but more importantly, how you want your time to *feel*.

If we delve deeper into why we want certain things to happen, it’s for the experience, not necessarily the “thing”.

Things are nice but I believe experiences are better.

As I mentioned in last week’s article: The Law of Attraction’s Underbelly, your soul is truly the one in control. Our soul agreed to have certain experiences in this life to grow and evolve – and more times than not – those experiences can choose to be challenging.

Yet, this doesn’t mean that you are completely powerless. Far from it. Your soul speaks to you each day and gives you intuitive nudges to move you in the direction it wishes to go.

What needs to be realized is: what resistance do you feel to trusting your intuition when you’ve been taught to value, honor, and worship your mind?

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Fear of Making Changes

Posted on Apr 7, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

““Put your expectations on God, not on people.” ~Joyce Meyer

Many self-help teachers teach about feeling resistance and how if you’re stuck, you need to break through that stuck-ness with action.

I agree – action is powerful when it comes to getting yourself un-stuck from say – not exercising. Great advice is to – as Nike says – Just Do It!®.

Yet, when it comes to creative stuck-ness, there are deeper needs that must be dealt with to move forward – especially since creativity and self-expression are directly aligned to “being seen” and you claiming your worth.

Often, when you feel a stirring in your soul to do more creativity – a common fear that comes up is – a fear of being judged. This fear of being judged and exposed blocks you from moving forward and keeps you stuck feeling resentful and frustrated.

Although when you’re creatively stuck whether in your life, your work, or even in your relationships – you may not be able to put your finger on what the block is.

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Trying To Make A Decision

Posted on Mar 4, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“Trust your own heart. It knows the right way.”

Decisions, decisions. They are certainly hard to make – especially when they pertain to really important things – key things – things that are aligned with you experiencing a brighter future.

Today I’m sharing a personal story with you that provides a beautiful example of what it looks like to make a decision from your head vs. your heart and how it can put you on a temporary detour to pursuing your life’s calling.

Years back, when I hit a wall in my corporate career, I prayed for a miracle that would show me the way out of the corporate life I was living and into a career that I loved.

I still remember the day that I found the answer to my prayer as I googled a term that brought-up a link to an upcoming workshop entitled: “How To Quit Your Job And Do What You Love”.

Not only was I excited to find the workshop, but even more excited to learn that it was being held in Maine three months to the day!

I immediately signed up.

The seminar was fantastic! It included a weekend full of insight from experts who knew their stuff about how to make the transition from working “for the man” – to – as I like to call it, working for the “Big Man/Woman” ;)

After the seminar was over, I decided to hire one of the experts for a one-hour CONSULT session. In prep for the session, I sent the expert my resume and also answered the various questions they had posed to me about the future work I was interested in pursuing.

On the day of the call I was very nervous to speak with this expert about what my future held for me. I remember feeling nervous about what they had to say to me about what I *should* do moving forward.

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Hand Over The Fear

Posted on Jan 21, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” ~Martin Luther King, Jr.

Last week, I was explaining to several people that the beautiful thing about having a deep desire to find your life’s calling through your work is: it’s a wonderful excuse and catalyst to grow and evolve spiritually, emotionally, mentally and in ALL ways!

If you think about it, many of the decisions you’ve made in the past most likely have come from what you thought you *should* do in certain areas vs. what you would have done if you didn’t have any fear. And it’s awesome when you realize that you don’t have to live by your *shoulds* but rather by what your heart is urging you to do.

Think of it this way: *should* aligns with obligation and obligation stems from feeling undeserving. Doing what you love and what would make your heart sing and bring you joy has hesitation around it too. Subconsciously you may think: Do I really deserve to feel joy with my work? Shouldn’t work be hard and a struggle? There’s that *should* again :)

Many people think its fear that holds them back from doing what they really want to do – and that is definitely part of it. But another big part of it is feeling worthy of actually being able to experiencing higher emotions on a daily basis – to be creative, to make a difference, to have an impact, to feel joyful and make others joyful.

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