Posts Tagged ‘Exhaustion’

Feeling Less Than Others

Posted on May 8, 2012 | by Brenda Stanton

“Women are still in emotional bondage as long as we need to worry that we might have to make a choice between being heard and being loved.” ~Marianne Williamson

The common denominator in my work with clients is the consistent theme and pattern that I see with women who yearn to have a voice in the world – to do great work – to be more seen and heard, and to make a difference – yet in their quest to expand and evolve and become more creatively self expressed, there is a holdback – a limit – a fear.

And, after some deeper inquiry, this hold-back boils down to a fear of not wanting to be seen as: bold, full of themselves, arrogant, and conceited.

Therefore, any attempt at any Authentic Self creative expression and forward movement, gets trumped and blocked because – as Marianne Williamson says in the statement above – we feel our lives are an either/or choice – that we must sacrifice one area in order to experience happiness in another.

This is not true but it feels true for many.


Type-Personality Tendencies

Posted on Apr 21, 2011 | by Brenda Stanton

“Let the credit card companies market as they will, the only thing that’s priceless is Now.”
~ Caleb Baylor Hive

In my home I have a beautiful picture hanging in a place where I see it everyday that states: “Live For Today”. It’s a beautiful reminder to focus on the now – and not get caught in the past or the future. Nice concept – yet not an ‘easy’ one to implement and make practical in a world where we need to get things done, accomplish, plan for the future, pay a mortgage, etc.

Yet, I’ve found, that “Living For Today”, and allowing yourself to soak in the now – and trust in the now – and have faith in the future – is truly the only way to experience inner peace, joy and fulfillment.

And what I always reiterate to clients I work with, who are ambitious, can-do, go-getters who are also at a point of exhaustion and overwhelm – and are ready to have life be easier is: your Type-A personality has given you a great gift – and that gift is – a very buff, curvy, beautiful muscle that knows how to produce, accomplish and get things done.

Now, it’s time to begin the process of buffing a different muscle – your feminine, free-flowing, trusting in the future, and trusting that you’re supported, muscle.
Again, easy concept ‘on paper’, yet trying to implement into your life, can be a totally different story.


Someday When Syndrome

Posted on Apr 4, 2011 | by Brenda Stanton

“It is good to appreciate that life is now. Whatever it offers, little or much, life is now
– this day – this hour.” ~Charles Macomb Flandrau

“Someday when my prince comes then I’ll feel whole and happy”

“Someday when I get on Oprah, then I’ll have succeeded”

“Someday when I publish the book, this is when the business will really take off”.

Can you relate with these thoughts? If you’re like most of us, you can simply fill in the blank to “Someday when” and have your own projection into the future.

In my work with clients, one of my many jobs is to being a collaborative visionary. A person who walks the path with my you – and helps you see things yourself that you may have never been able to see on your own.

At the same time, I’m also tasked with ensuring that you see that, even though we spend lots of time creative visioning, and getting lots of clarity about what your soul is pulling you towards in every area of your life, that we also don’t fall into the “Someday when” fantasy trap.

The “Someday when” trap is a common one. It’s a feeling that we aren’t happy or fulfilled now and we’ll only be happy when something outside ourselves shifts, or until we obtain something in particular.