Less Boredom, More Mystery

Posted on Jul 29, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“It is only through mystery and madness that the soul is revealed” ~ Thomas Moore

What is so cool to me about teaching the Claim Your Worth!® process and teaching is not only does the work keep expanding and growing with each year, but it’s an organic, non-linear process that I could never, ever predict.

The other very cool thing is, we get to utilize discontent as a catalyst for your growth and transformation. And, with unconventional, free-spirited, creative, lively gals, discontent is a constant – which is totally normal – and a good thing!

It’s hard to believe that it’s been about 10 years now since I had my first inklings of discontent with my career. I had hit a plateau – I got the promotion, the accolades, and the office with a view that I wanted/intended, yet I still felt discontented and very unhappy.

Looking back now, I can see that discontentment was/is healthy. It not only forced me to look deeper within myself and to finally listen to the inner voice that was whispering to me that there had to be something MORE.

But, the discontentment allowed me to give myself permission to explore the parts of me that were so bored with the conformity and routine I was living each day. I was bored out of my mind going to the same job, same location, same people each day.

No variety. No mystery. No path to discovering my soul’s path.

This is why having discontentment with your career is such a beautiful catalyst to discover how your soul is longing to LIVE. Because when we think about it, your career takes up the majority of your time (next to sleep).

There are 168 hours in a week – 56 of them are spent sleeping (if you can get 8 hours a night), and if you work a 50-hour work-week (40-hour work weeks are out of the window in most cases), that leaves about 60 hours left to do errands, household chores, and hopefully have some fun time. Still a good amount of time – but – why not have your work be enjoyable too!

The point to all this is: if you know, in your quietest moments that you are designed to live a deeper, richer, more mysterious life where you get to pursue your passions – then honor what your soul is urging you to do – listen to it’s guidance and have the courage to follow it.

Check-out the Worthy Work below to start the process of honoring the mysteries and madness of your soul that set you on the unconventional, non-boring, and most authentic, joy-filled path.


To Your Worth!



Most of us were brought up in homes that needed to solely focus on basic needs – food, shelter, etc. Our parents most likely were more focused with putting food on the table and cloths on your body, then honoring and eliciting your emotional and creative needs – am I right?

This isn’t to say these needs aren’t meant to be honored and elicited out of you, you just need to do the honoring and eliciting yourself.

Here are three key questions to ask yourself so you can begin honoring the mysteries of your soul so you can begin to experience more of what you deeply crave in your life, work and relationships:

Non-Conformity Question #1: Describe experiences in your life where you’ve felt like an outcast, black sheep, and that you didn’t “fit-in” to the *normal* way of doing things. Then, jot down how you’ve judged yourself for being such an original with “I judge myself because….” Then, replace “I judge myself” with “I embrace myself because…”.

Non-Conformity Question #2: Think about how a strong need for certainty, safety and security and being responsible and practical has kept you from enjoying new experiences and taking some bolder risks? In other words, where has fear of the unknown and a need to *know* stopped you from aligning with the mystery and direction of your soul?

Non-Conformity Question #3: Give yourself permission to dream up the life you’d live and experience if society and rules and other people’s opinions had no bearing on your decisions. Imagine that you could do anything, go anywhere, meet anyone you wanted – what would that look like? You can be specific about people, places and things to start but then go deeper into the feelings and essence of what those experiences FEEL like.

After answering these questions and giving them lots of contemplation and thought, be aware of where judgement and guilt come in and that nasty inner voice that will try to convince you it will never happen and it’s *bad* to be different. That nasty inner voice wants to keep you stuck and “safe” and BORED.

Then, after you realize the nasty voice, go deeper to listen to the inner, quiet, confident voice and ask: What is one step I can take this week to get me closer to these experiences? And, what false belief do I need to let go of about myself, others and life in order to embrace this?

Enjoy your week of contemplation and non-conformity!




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