Getting Out Of Your Own Way
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable ~Helen Keller
“…to behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefetable”
What a statement huh? Helen Keller certainly had in-sight for sure even though she couldn’t ‘see’ on the outside.
That is very telling considering that most of us are so focused on the external world that we can’t connect with the internal – which is really where all the joy, beauty and magic lives!
Yet, to re-capture our child-like innocence – we must find the strength and courage it takes to live more freely in a world that can feel very limiting and constricted.
This is the challenge – feeling like you’re trapped in a life that is full of everyday mundane responsibilities, when all you really yearn to do is soar to greater heights – and experience more freedom, fun and flexibility with your days.
And, this is what we’ve been discussing in the
December Call Series, how-to get clear and organized in your thought processes for 2012 and learn how you can experience what it is that you really want both in the long-term and short term – and make it a reality in your everyday life.
With the visioning process and thinking outside your present reality, lots of resistance crops-up – where I witness folks trying to think about new possibilities or ‘what could be’ different in their lives – yet getting stuck in wanting and needing to know HOW it will happen!
Yet, as I always say, it isn’t your job to know the HOW.
But, you may ask, what’s the formula for letting go of some control, and also knowing what I’m responsible for and what I’m not?
I posted this comment on Facebook a couple weeks back and wanted to share it with you here: “Do the best you can. Give it your all. Then, let go of the results. Trust that whatever happens is meant to happen for your highest good.”
The comment really resonated with folks.
Why? Because it helps relieve the pressure to have to always KNOW. It helps to lessen the heavy burden of feeling like you’re in 100% control over the results of your life – and if you do something ‘wrong’ or make a mistake, that things could go terribly wrong.
What a relief it is to release the pressure off yourself, do the best you can, and then work in tandem with your Higher Power – who truly does love you and has your best interests at heart – and surrender what you can’t control.
We all want to release control and it sounds beautiful in theory, but how do you do it when you worry and have anxiety and a strong need to feel and be safe? Check-out the Worthy Work below where I give you some tips on how to let things come to you so you can truly Claim Your Worth!®
WORTHY WORKThe key to Getting Out Of Your Own Way is identifying what it is that you can control and what it is that you can’t. This is a process where you need to flex and buff your trust, surrender and faith muscles and learn to let go of control and feeling completely responsible for life. It’s something we all want, yet can be the scariest thing to actually implement. The first step is identify what things you can control and what things you can’t. There are things that are completely out of your control such as how other people respond to you, what the weather is going to be like, if you’ll get laid-off, or if the terrorists will attack us again. Then, there are things that are within your control which include – how you treat yourself, how you treat others, and what activities you choose to spend your time on and what activities that you don’t. These self-management tools are paramount in the Claim Your Worth!® process – yet tend to go under the radar when it comes to having the discipline to institute them. To help you know how to get out of your own way, write out all the things you can control in terms of what you eat, who you decide to have come into your life, whether you’ll exercise or not, how you decorate your home, etc. Then, write down what isn’t in your control – and include not only outer events in our world and what other people do – but – and this is really important: the results in your life. Sit with letting go of the outcomes – and trusting that when you do the best you can and give it your ALL, the best outcome that is in your highest good will happen –even if it doesn’t feel that way at the time. Getting out of your own way is actually a process of learning to invite the BEST in. Learning to receive is part of claiming your worth – where you actually give yourself permission to be happy, fulfilled and joyful from the inside/out. Wanting to control on the other hand, keeps you stifled and stuck – it may feel ‘safer’, but it keeps you steeped in misery –which is no fun. Love, Brenda |
To Your Worth!
Brenda
Dec 19, 2011 at 8:08 pm
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