Dealing With Your Inner Critic

Posted on Mar 27, 2012 | by Brenda Stanton

“It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.” ~Author Unknown

Each day the past tries to creep into all of our minds and remind us of all the reasons why we can’t have what we truly desire or why we can’t be truly happy.

This can show up when you go to dream about a new adventure or endeavor and begin to consider the possibility of it actually happening. And before you know it, your inner critic is right there to remind you of all the reasons why it won’t work.

I remember a time in my life where I didn’t know the difference from my inner critic voice and the voice of my soul. I remember having dreams and things I wished to do, but having this voice inside tell me it will never happen so don’t bother trying.

It wasn’t until I worked with a coach who understood the critical importance of the “inner work”, that I began to compartmentalize my inner critic voice and realize that it wasn’t all of me, it was a part of me, but not all of me.

This revelation of compartmentalizing my inner critic voice from the voice of my heart was huge because I learned how-to deal with it when it cropped up.

Just last week, I contributed to an article in Woman’s World magazine titled: “Why am I so hard on myself?”, which gave some tips on how-to help women specifically abolish self-doubt. The article was prompted because of a recent, shocking study which found that the average woman has 36 negative thoughts about herself every day!

It’s hard to believe sometimes how we talk to ourselves each day. Yet, becoming aware is the first step to shifting your mindset and learning how-to believe the Truth that you really are good enough and capable of all that you desire.

Check-out the Worthy Work below where I share a tip for how-to turn off negativity in seconds and the shifts I received in my own life (and continue to receive) as a result of implementing this.


To Your Worth!



Here is my recent tip from the Woman’s World article published in the March 26th 2012 issue. There are more great tips within the article so if you want to pick-up a copy, the article should be on stands for a few more days:

Turn off negativity in seconds by snapping a rubber band

Stop negative thoughts by becoming aware of them. How? Try wearing a rubber band on your wrist. Then, when you find yourself thinking you’re not good enough, gently snap the band. Think of it as a reset button that restarts your thinking process. Each time you snap, remind yourself of one thing you know that you’re good at. Soon, you’ll start to have fewer negative thoughts!

Years back, I remember implementing this approach in my own life when I was getting ready to take the leap from my corporate gig into my own coaching practice full-time. As you can imagine, with a decision like this, my inner critic was having a field day – telling me all the reasons why it wouldn’t work and I shouldn’t bother trying.

I remember a specific day when I was sitting at a red light and my head was spinning with negative, fearful, “what if” scenarios. What if it doesn’t work out? What if you go broke? What if you never get any clients? What if you fail?

Then, all of a sudden, I heard a much quieter, calm, soothing, supportive voice say: What if it does work out? The voice was so unfamiliar to me that I literally looked in the rearview to see if someone snuck into my backseat.

From that day on, I knew that giving my inner critic voice full reign over my life’s direction were done. I knew from that point forward, that I’d be consulting a new voice within – the voice whose only agenda is to help me make soul-based decisions, not head-based ones!

Here is to you making soul-based decisions as well by trusting a different voice within. And it can start with the sliding of a rubber band on your wrist. Give it a try!


To Your Worth!

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