Archive for the ‘Living For Today’ Category

Solutions To Get Un-Stuck

Posted on Dec 1, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful that the risk it took to bloom.” ~~ Anais Nin

The first inclination when you feel like you’re stuck in a rut and lacking all motivation to do anything is to – get out of this state quickly! The feelings that arise when you’re stuck are very uncomfortable and almost unbearable because they go against your character and who you know yourself to be.

If you identify yourself with being a can-do, go-getter, overachiever who has a track-record of getting things done – then being stuck in a rut is probably the worst feeling you could feel. It goes against the grain of everything you know about yourself and it hits hard to your identity and how you see yourself – and, where you source your value.

Imagine for a moment that you source your value and self-worth from giving.

Consider that you may get a hit of adrenaline every time you accomplish, give, or prove that you’re valuable by doing or giving – whether it’s to someone or something – it feels good to get it done or provide because it feeds something in you – albeit temporarily.

Yet, at the same time, you may feel resentful and not know why. You may wonder why it seems that you never get back what you give. You may begin to get angry but have no idea why you’re angry. You may begin to feel sad and not know why. Pretty soon you find yourself not only sad, but stuck in a full-blown rut and have no idea how you got here.

Sound familiar?


When Life Gives You Limes

Posted on Sep 8, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“When life gives you limes, make margaritas!” ~Brad Paisley

The above quote is from a great new country song “Limes” by Brad Paisley. The entire song is aimed at helping you to focus on the bright-side of life. You can listen and read the lyrics : here

One of the lyrics actually has a mistake – but I don’t believe in mistakes. Notice where Brad sings the lyric: “You look around and see all these people and think their life is perfect – ha – hardly…”. The video above states “pardon me” as if to think that it’s actually true – that looking around at other people’s lives and believing their perfect is true.

To quote Brad again, “Ha, hardly.”

Many everyday occurrences, including Facebook, can feed into this myth for sure – which is comparing yourself to others who seem to have “it” – it being life – all figured out.

What I’ve found is –that we often envy others who are thriving in areas that we struggle. And rather than believe they are more worthy or competent in this area, consideration should be given to that area just being a block in you – not a definition or reflection of your personal worth.

When you have a personal block that is holding you back from experiencing something that you really, really want and crave (and are envious that others are experiencing), the goal is to look at the part of you (not all of you!) that is fearful of actually experiencing what you truly desire.

Yes, fearful.


Aligning Your Head & Heart

Posted on May 9, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“The expression of divinity is in variety.” ~Sheri S. Tepper

In my practice I work with folks who are committed to following their soul’s path – and being of integrity with where their heart is leading them.

Yet, at the same time, the gals I work with, rightfully so, are also just as committed to keeping the inner peace and stressing when it comes to getting their basic needs met – and ensuring they are being responsible with their decisions – and taking care of their basic life necessities.

So, as with everything in life that we strive for, it’s a balance. Not balance in a perfectionism way, but balance in a way that you’re acknowledging all your needs- especially the needs of your heart and your head – they are very different.

To help give some clarity around this, I’m sharing an exercise I did that you may find insightful and helpful – when I asked my head and then asked my heart what they both needed – this is what I discovered:


Preparing for What’s Next

Posted on Apr 14, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” ~ Seneca

Let’s imagine for a moment you have something in your life, your work/business, or on the relationship-side of things that you’d like to manifest, see happen, or transform/change.

Take a specific scenario of something that you’re desiring to happen – and bring what it is that you desire into your mind and heart.

Got a clear vision of what that is?

Great. Now, think about what it will feel like once this experience, event, result, etc. comes into fruition?

Got it?

Okay, now, when you think about making that happen – bringing ‘that’ into your life, work/business, or in your relationships, what is the first thought that pops into your head?

Write that down.

Now, is that thought you instinctively thought have anything to do with adding one more thing onto an already over-flowing plate of priorities? Or have anything to do with you going ‘out there’ to make it happen?


Small Steps Matter

Posted on Mar 17, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“There is no one giant step that does it, it’s a lot of little steps.” ~Peter Cohen

As I mentioned in last week’s article, ff you’re creative, you’re most likely impatient.

Impatient to make things happen. Impatient to allow things to happen. Impatient to realize your full potential.

You most likely feel – each and every day – that you need to “get there” – wherever “there” is – you need to be there, pronto.

What most of us aren’t taught however is that there is no “there” – there is no destination that once we get to it, it’s all done.


From Burnt Out to Fired Up!

Posted on Feb 10, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.”
~ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

At a very deep level within YOU – you know what it means to truly Claim Your Worth!®. You know that at the end of your life – and at the end of your days – each day – what truly matters is who you allowed yourself to become as a person – and your ability to give and receive love freely and authentically.

Yes, of course, we all know this to be true at a superficial level because this is so much of what is said “out there”. Yet, you can hear the words, but to be able to understand what they mean, you need to experience them for yourself – and experience what it really means to Claim Your Worth!® from the inside/out.

In other words, it’s a totally different story to realize that the beauty, fullness, radiance, security, confidence, courage, and acceptance you seek – is already within YOU. If you aren’t feeling “It”, then you’ve just lost touch with “It” and need to become reacquainted in order to become re-united.


Change Your Future Life Story Act II

Posted on Feb 2, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph.” ~Thomas Paine

You’ll recall from last week’s article that writing and analyzing your life story is a critical tool to helping you make progress in an area that’s very important to you and helping you get un-stuck.

Since the topic of not only writing out your past, but having the power to write out your future, appealed to so many of you, I thought we’d go deeper with the topic with this week’s Act II portion.

To help give this topic some more context and power, I thought I’d have you first watch this brief (6 minutes) video on How To Write a Script – Story Structure.

Movie makers and script writers give a great description of how-to write a script, not only the past, but also the present and of course the future. They do a great job of explaining the purpose/meaning of Act I, Act II, and Act III.

Take a few minutes to watch this video and then read-on to learn how this applies to you having your own turning point and transformation in your own life. Click here to watch the video


Who You Surround Yourself With

Posted on Dec 2, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ~Jim Rohn

This year in particular has been an interesting one for sure – and one in which has shown me much Truth on the importance of relationships and who you choose to surround yourself with.

In looking back over the years, I can see first-hand how many of my holdbacks in life – and what felt like barriers to moving forward with things I yearned to do, had to do with the fear of upsetting people around me – and in-turn, losing their love.

Can you relate?

Most of us have a deep down fear of not only disappointing others, but more accurately, having them abandon you if you change.

What I’ve learned is: relationships cannot be a default in your life. You can’t simply allow people to be around you just because they’ve been around you for years.


Trying To Predict Your Future

Posted on Aug 19, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we are all in this together.” ~Dr. Brene Brown

When I started out with my life/career coaching practice over 7 years ago, I was excited about all the tools and resources I had gained that I could provide to clients to help them improve their lives.

Still, to this day, I utilize these same practical, foundational resources to assist clients with improving the quality of their life through life balance, dealing with self-doubt, and finding their confidence and courage to pursue your heart’s desires.

Yet, what’s becoming so prevalent in the Claim Your Worth!® process and evolution is: its one thing to teach you how-to overcome self-doubt with finding your inner confidence and facing the fear and doing it anyway.

It’s another thing all together to teach you how-to deal with the uncertainties of life and the absolute certainty that there are no guarantees.

Yikes! No guarantees? What do you mean no guarantees?


Less Boredom, More Mystery

Posted on Jul 29, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“It is only through mystery and madness that the soul is revealed” ~ Thomas Moore

What is so cool to me about teaching the Claim Your Worth!® process and teaching is not only does the work keep expanding and growing with each year, but it’s an organic, non-linear process that I could never, ever predict.

The other very cool thing is, we get to utilize discontent as a catalyst for your growth and transformation. And, with unconventional, free-spirited, creative, lively gals, discontent is a constant – which is totally normal – and a good thing!

It’s hard to believe that it’s been about 10 years now since I had my first inklings of discontent with my career. I had hit a plateau – I got the promotion, the accolades, and the office with a view that I wanted/intended, yet I still felt discontented and very unhappy.

Looking back now, I can see that discontentment was/is healthy. It not only forced me to look deeper within myself and to finally listen to the inner voice that was whispering to me that there had to be something MORE.

But, the discontentment allowed me to give myself permission to explore the parts of me that were so bored with the conformity and routine I was living each day. I was bored out of my mind going to the same job, same location, same people each day.

No variety. No mystery. No path to discovering my soul’s path.