Archive for the ‘Freedom Filled Life-Style’ Category

Preparing for What’s Next

Posted on Apr 14, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” ~ Seneca

Let’s imagine for a moment you have something in your life, your work/business, or on the relationship-side of things that you’d like to manifest, see happen, or transform/change.

Take a specific scenario of something that you’re desiring to happen – and bring what it is that you desire into your mind and heart.

Got a clear vision of what that is?

Great. Now, think about what it will feel like once this experience, event, result, etc. comes into fruition?

Got it?

Okay, now, when you think about making that happen – bringing ‘that’ into your life, work/business, or in your relationships, what is the first thought that pops into your head?

Write that down.

Now, is that thought you instinctively thought have anything to do with adding one more thing onto an already over-flowing plate of priorities? Or have anything to do with you going ‘out there’ to make it happen?

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Small Steps Matter

Posted on Mar 17, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“There is no one giant step that does it, it’s a lot of little steps.” ~Peter Cohen

As I mentioned in last week’s article, ff you’re creative, you’re most likely impatient.

Impatient to make things happen. Impatient to allow things to happen. Impatient to realize your full potential.

You most likely feel – each and every day – that you need to “get there” – wherever “there” is – you need to be there, pronto.

What most of us aren’t taught however is that there is no “there” – there is no destination that once we get to it, it’s all done.

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From Burnt Out to Fired Up!

Posted on Feb 10, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.”
~ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

At a very deep level within YOU – you know what it means to truly Claim Your Worth!®. You know that at the end of your life – and at the end of your days – each day – what truly matters is who you allowed yourself to become as a person – and your ability to give and receive love freely and authentically.

Yes, of course, we all know this to be true at a superficial level because this is so much of what is said “out there”. Yet, you can hear the words, but to be able to understand what they mean, you need to experience them for yourself – and experience what it really means to Claim Your Worth!® from the inside/out.

In other words, it’s a totally different story to realize that the beauty, fullness, radiance, security, confidence, courage, and acceptance you seek – is already within YOU. If you aren’t feeling “It”, then you’ve just lost touch with “It” and need to become reacquainted in order to become re-united.

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Change Your Future Life Story Act I

Posted on Jan 20, 2014 | by Brenda Stanton

“As you imagine and visualize and verbalize your new story, in time you will believe the new story, and when that happens, the evidence will flow swiftly into your experience. A belief is only a thought you continue to think; and when your beliefs match your desires, then your desires must become your reality.” ~Abraham Hicks

There is a tool that I give all new clients, which is the task of writing out your life story.

I offer you a variety of ways to deliver this back to me – whether in written word, visual format, audio recording, etc.,

I receive a huge amount of resistance with assigning this task – more so than any other tool in my coaching toolkit.

Why?

I believe the resistance to write-out your life story is there because in Truth, it’s painful to look back. The philosophy of most clients is: it’s in the past, why revisit it?

I completely understand.

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Less Boredom, More Mystery

Posted on Jul 29, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“It is only through mystery and madness that the soul is revealed” ~ Thomas Moore

What is so cool to me about teaching the Claim Your Worth!® process and teaching is not only does the work keep expanding and growing with each year, but it’s an organic, non-linear process that I could never, ever predict.

The other very cool thing is, we get to utilize discontent as a catalyst for your growth and transformation. And, with unconventional, free-spirited, creative, lively gals, discontent is a constant – which is totally normal – and a good thing!

It’s hard to believe that it’s been about 10 years now since I had my first inklings of discontent with my career. I had hit a plateau – I got the promotion, the accolades, and the office with a view that I wanted/intended, yet I still felt discontented and very unhappy.

Looking back now, I can see that discontentment was/is healthy. It not only forced me to look deeper within myself and to finally listen to the inner voice that was whispering to me that there had to be something MORE.

But, the discontentment allowed me to give myself permission to explore the parts of me that were so bored with the conformity and routine I was living each day. I was bored out of my mind going to the same job, same location, same people each day.

No variety. No mystery. No path to discovering my soul’s path.

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Letting Go Of Control

Posted on Jun 17, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” ~Serenity Prayer

If you’re someone who has a strong need to feel in control of your life, your circumstances, your finances, your success, your relationships, your household, other people, the weather, etc. – you are definitely not alone.

The other day I found myself in major over-thinking, analysis paralysis mode – thinking things through – and trying to know an outcome that couldn’t possibly be known, yet.

So as I sat there in my car stopped at a red light (I usually have major epiphanies in the car by the way), I noticed a car up ahead of me with the back window down and a child’s hand hanging out the window. They were waving a white tissue out the car window and simply allowing it to blow in the wind.

These mini-miracles never cease to amaze me and the other day was no different. I got the message loud and clear…”Wave the white flag Brenda. Hand it over. Let it go.” Which I did and I felt much better, much more free, more joyful and calm. Come to think of it, I don’t even remember what I was ruminating about that day – and it was only two days ago!

As I’ve written in other articles unmet needs drive us – they unconsciously motivate us to take action, or, to not take action.

This is why delving deeper into what’s motivating you to do what you do is so critical because once you get beyond your basic needs and realize where they truly get met, you set yourself free to experience more joy and love in your life.

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Power of A Vision

Posted on Apr 22, 2013 | by Brenda Stanton

Having a vision for your life allows you to live out of hope, rather than out of your fears. ~ Stedman Graham

Lately I’ve been finding myself talking more and more about the fact that having clarity on what it is that you
really, really want, is extremely underrated.

It’s interesting to see the resistance that crops up when I encourage clients to start with the end in mind – to step back, take some time out, and get clear on what it is that they would really like to see happen – BEFORE we begin to put the action pieces in place.

At first glance, I used to think that the resistance that folks have to the visioning process had to do with them just wanting to get started with the action pieces because they value feeling productive above anything else.

And even though the need to feel productive still tends to trump the creative process of visioning, I’ve found another reason folks resist the visioning process – and this reason boils down to plain ol’ FEAR & Self Doubt.

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Living Authentically

Posted on May 1, 2012 | by Brenda Stanton

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs

In order to live the life you were designed to live , it’s critical to understand yourself at the deepest level.

Recently I read a passage by the author Pamela Field in her book: A Woman Who Dreams Herself that: “We have two lives that run parallel with each other: the life we’ve inherited, and the life our Higher Self (a.k.a. our soul) has planned for us. And, at any moment, we can decide to change tracks.”

Have you ever thought of it that way? That there is the life that was passed onto you without any conscious choice – and then there is the life that is imbedded deep within your soul – like a blueprint – that has the plans on where YOU are meant to go and what you’re meant to do.

As I mentioned in the previous article: Carried Shame and Worthiness, oftentimes we don’t realize that if you’re stuck, or feeling a certain way about yourself, or doubting your abilities, etc. – it’s oftentimes a result of you holding onto someone else’s “stuff” and you holding onto shame that wasn’t yours to begin with.

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The Power Of A Vision

Posted on Apr 10, 2012 | by Brenda Stanton

>”Having a vision for your life allows you to live out of hope, rather than out of your fears.” ~ Stedman Graham

Lately I’ve been finding myself talking more and more about the fact that having clarity on what it is that you really, really want, is extremely underrated.

It’s interesting to see the resistance that crops up when I encourage clients to start with the end in mind – to step back, take some time out, and get clear on what it is that they would really like to see happen – BEFORE we begin to put the action pieces in place.

At first glance, I used to think that the resistance that folks have to the visioning process had to do with them just wanting to get started with the action pieces because they value feeling productive above anything else.

And even though the need to feel productive still tends to trump the creative process of visioning, I’ve found another reason folks resist the visioning process – and this reason boils down to plain ol’ FEAR & Self-Doubt

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Get Focused and Less Distracted

Posted on Dec 8, 2011 | by Brenda Stanton

“That’s been one of my mantras – focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.” ~Steve Jobs

Steve Jobs statement above says it perfectly –“Simple can be harder than complex”.
Very true, especially when you’re creative person who has a ton of great ideas on how you can express yourself and do all the things that you yearn to do.

So, why is it so hard to pick something to focus on when you’re really creative and have lots of ideas? Why do you sometimes (or all the time perhaps) give in to doing nothing vs. taking action on something?

I’ve found 3 main areas which include:

  • Fear of Failure: the fear that you may fail and try something that doesn’t work out
  • Fear of Sacrifice: the in-ability to choose something to take action on because you fear you’ll have to give-up the other things you yearn to do as well
  • Fear of “How”: not knowing all the details and how-to’s on how something will happen and yearning to have an A-Z plan to create complete certainty.

Again, as Steve Jobs says: “Simple can be harder than complex”. Your mind yearns to KNOW, to have all the answers, to crave certainty – and if it doesn’t get all these aspects fed, then it won’t take any action at all.

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