Beauty of Black Sheep

Posted on Mar 13, 2012 | by Brenda Stanton

Last Wednesday morning, I hit the highway to drop off my laptop to get some repairs.  As I sat in the early morning traffic, my mind was flooded with memories from my former corporate days.

As I looked ahead of me at all the traffic, I remembered all the mornings, and evenings, I’d spent in sitting in my car- feeling like I wasting my life away.

I always remember looking around – trying to catch the eye of other people in their cars – wondering if they were thinking what I was:  “What are we all following each other to?  What are we chasing?”

When I was in corporate I always felt like an outcast. Come to think of it, my whole life I felt like an outcast – a black sheep – someone who always got into trouble for drawing outside the lines, not fitting into a mold, or box, wanting things to be different, and searching for an escape hatch – a place where I could find a blank canvas to draw-out that vision.

Even when I quit corporate and launched my own gig, I spent many years trying to ‘fit-in’ within the entrepreneurship mold.  Without realizing I was doing it, I began to try on other people’s visions, and ‘ways’ of doing things, yet none of them fit right. Once again, I found myself wondering – where does a ‘black sheep’ like me fit-in?

The truth is, black-sheep don’t fit-in.  That’s the point.

You know you’re a black sheep when you know you’re different, you know that you’re creative, you know that you have ideas, great ideas, yet you may not know where to channel them.  You may beat yourself up for being different- feeling like – if you could just find a place to ‘fit-in’, then everything would be okay.

Yet, I encourage you, rather than looking for a place to “fit-in”- socially, personally, professionally,  rather – look within and begin to embrace that beautiful black-sheep – that woman who is different, and was born that way – unique, creative, and a genius – who rather than writing on someone else’s canvas, has to find her own to paint her masterpiece.

Finding, and using your Voice, isn’t always an easy thing – or a popular thing.  If you’re a creative women who may have grown-up being told (in many ways – verbally and non-verbally) that you need to “go sit down and be quiet”, you may have a hard time with even knowing that you have a Voice, something unique, that you want to say, and only you can say it in your own ‘way’.

I encourage you to take some time, reflect, dig-down, see if the black sheep analogy resonates.  If it does, being the betting woman I am, I bet you have something very unique to ‘say’ and share with the world, all you need is the right platform.

Will you take some time to embrace your black-sheep and discover what she has to say?

As always, it’s your choice.



Consider the black-sheep example of you being different, unique, special – and having something unique and special to share with the world. When you think of this – do you feel like “Who, me? Little ol’ me?”?

If so, explore that – because I can also bet there is a little of “What will they think of me if I did say what I have to say?”

Often, everything, and I mean everything, is directed by: “What will they think of me!??!” Consider this, who are they? And why do you care?

Contemplate those questions – and also I thought I’d share something a dear client and friend emailed me – it’s so great – check it out:

There is a point in your life when you Realize:
Who Matters,
Who does not Matter,
Who Never did,
Who Won’t Anymore,
And Who Never Will Again,
So do NOT Worry about people from your past, there’s a Reason they did not make it into YOUR Future.
We may not yet be aware of the WHY’S, but let the universe take care of that while you are busy LIVING your life and NOT waiting for the person from your past to come back….

As they say in Ireland *what’s for you, won’t pass you by*….


To Your Worth,

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