Shifting Invisible Patterns

Posted on May 4, 2015 | by Brenda Stanton

“If I could change one thing for women, it would be helping them to believe they have the inner strength they need to make their lives better.” -Alice Domar, Ph. D.

In the world of self improvement, achieving goals and pursuing your dreams – you’ve most likely bumped up against patterns that you see transpire over and over again in your life.

Maybe you see in a pattern in your romantic relationships – where no matter who you’re dating, the same issues and patterns show up. Same person just a different pair of pants.

Or, maybe you see it in your work – you may go into a different job, or a different position – and find yourself feeling frustrated and undervalued. You feel like you just took a different seat on the titanic.

It’s a beautiful thing when you can actually realize and see a pattern because then, once you’re aware, you can change it and begin making different choices – more empowering choices.

But what do you do when you have patterns that you know are holding you back – that you can’t see. These are blocks that you know exist but they’re invisible – you don’t know what you don’t know – therefore you can’t change it.

Many times invisible patterns are so ingrained in the subconscious that your actions happen without you even realizing you’re continuing the pattern – until after the fact!

You may blame yourself – or beat yourself up for taking action that you “know” isn’t in line what you truly desire – yet you continue to do it.

What I’ve discovered about invisible patterns is many times, they align directly with worth – feeling worthy of experiencing something different for yourself for not other reason but because you want and desire to – yet for whatever reason, you continue to hold yourself back.

To help us dive into this a little deeper, check-out the Worthy Work below where I share a story that I hope gives you a great visual as how damaging an invisible pattern can be – but also gives you some insight into why you continue to do it.



When listening to an audio Creating Self Worth from Abraham Hicks, I wanted to share a story she shares which I’ve paraphrased here:

Imagine you have a child who desires to go outside and take his/her shoes off and walk in the street in his/her bare feet.

You, as this child’s guardian witness all the debris in the street – rocks, broken glass, hot, scorching pavement that’s hot from the sun, etc.

The child is determined to walk in the street. Yet, you see about a foot away a nice patch of grass where the child can walk and enjoy the coolness and comfort the grass.

You witness the child walk in the street and is screaming from the pain of it.

You then urge the child to walk bare foot in the grass where it’s cooler, softer, and a much nicer, more enjoyable experience.

Yet the child is adamant about walking in the street – even though they feel immense pain.

In the audio they describe this experience as completely illogical but at the same time, it’s a great analogy for what many of us do with repeating patterns and continuing to experience pain.

The audio goes on to say the child yells out – “NO! I must walk in the street- my mother walked in the street, her mother walked in the street, and her mother and so-on – therefore, I MUST walk in the street.”

Hopefully you see the pattern of worth here – and how invisible these things can be about subconscious agreements we make with ourselves based on what we witness our own care takers doing.

Often invisible patterns exist to not out succeed, not out pleasure, not out enjoy our lives – because our parents and their parents had to suffer – so therefore, there must be a place where you must need to suffer to.

Invisible patterns inevitably will cause suffering – but if you can begin to bring them to the surface, and see your motivation for keeping them in place – then you can shift them – and begin to truly Claim Your Worth!®

As always, it’s your choice – have a great week!


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